it could just be her personality. some women act like their are flirting when they are not . but, if she has been confronted by you then i can understand that you are upset because it hasn't made a difference . does your husband let you know how much he loves you? does he respond to her flirts in a way that makes you nervous? how does her husband respond to it ? if she had an affair with a married man before then she will do it again . happily married women don't have affairs and they don't go around sending pictures of them self in bikinis to other men . i knew a girl who had the same problem but, this girl that was messing with her man was pregnant by her own husband and she was still flirting with her man and he kept saying that nothing was going on but, the girl was calling him at all hours of the night and coming to see him at the job. they all went to the same church as well. finally the girl went to the other womans husband because talking to her own husband and the other woman did no good . you can only do what you think is right for you . don't let your husband take this as funny and cute cause it's not .My husbands friend flirts with him infront of me, should I be worried that she may want more?
where is the rspect between friends? if it isnt any then why a you still friends with this lady.self security gos a long way especially in a relationship.if the situation was reversed ask your husband how he would feel about his friend flirting with you and sending pictures through the e-mail.
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Ask him how he would feel if you did that with his friends, you sound a bit too tolerent to me. From her track record she can't b trusted - your husband should be aware of that and respect your wishes-I think you need to get her away from you both some how?
Her behaviour is very inappropriate, even for friends. Your husband should be taking your side too, he chose to spend his life with you, and no friend should affect that vow he took. By not telling her to stop, he's just as bad in this as he is encouraging her. Can you be100% sure they aren't having an affair?
Is her husband aware she's carrying on like this? Perhaps you should enlighten him to his beloved wife's conduct with another man. I don't know any man who would be happy with his wife sending pictures of herself in a bikini to another man. If you do this, don't warn her about it, and tell your husband that you're not asking they stop being friends.
I would tell your husband ONCE more that it's her or you because you are not comfortable with this type of behavior and you can't go on in your marriage feeling this way. You have a decision to make as well. If he doesn't comply then you must leave or stay in this type of relationship.
You ask if you are reading too much into it. No, I would suggest you aren't reading enough into it, by a long shot. The things that they are doing are NOT how friends treat each other. Friends don't need to have private conversations behind their spouses' backs, and wayyy more importantly, I can assure you that friends don't send bikini-clad pictures of themselves to their friends.
The fact that your husband defends her shows that he is just as involved as she is. It is no friendship. Open your eyes and have a good look. They are obviously having an affair, but just as obviously, they will never admit it.
She's a T.W.I.T. Your hubby is keeping you and her on his what if list. Some men just don't get it.
In the old days us gals would have taken her to the backyard and beat the bee jeez izz out of her.
Slape that beech heavily so next time she never dare to do this. And warn your husband that he sholud select any one out both of you. Any way she is unfaithful and he will learn lesson very soon. Dont let him loose otherwise he will dance on your head
This is not fair to you....tell your husband that he's married with you now,and he must know the rules....you have the right to stop him being friend with that flirt friend of his....give him 2 choices:'To continue being friend with her... or lose you....they're both over the limits...how could you even let him talk to her in private?and sms each other,have him seeing bikini pictures of her?he's being too much...he need to be confronted....otherwise,you may regret it in the end if you don't stop them now....be smart!act now!
kick her *** that will knock some sense into her... nah but although u want to at the time,, i know i wouldve if mah husband has a flirty friend like that,,, you should confront her on why she sends your husband pictures of herself and that u feel uncomfortable... i see that she doesnt care about your feelings and probably does it just to piss you off... knowing that u wont do nothing about it but just creates probles with ur husband... just ask her whats her problem and why is she sending pics to ur hubby... i wouldnt think thats right...
I do not have to read any more of your question, she has had affairs before she is a S L U T and she has got some balls to think that you are not going to do anything about this.
Do not take this, confront her and tell her that you are not as stupid as she thinks you are and tell her to stay away from her man, and fight for him!!!!!
And get a backbone, and tell your husband to stop this and if he does not then keep fighting for him, do not give her what she wants!!!!! FIGHT FOR HIM!!!!!!
He is defending her, well, defend yourself, if he will not stop this, then prepare yourself for a divorce, start getting everything in your name including your own bank account, and your own attorney, and if he continues to do this, then you will be ready to leave him, and he can have his ';little woman';, and then when she is done with him, and ready to move on to the next ';Joe'; you will already be on your own, and you would have left him with nothing.
He is scum!!!!! He belongs with all the other scums in the pond, and you belong in nice clear waters, with the REAL ANIMALS!!!!!
you're being mistaken by yourself. The person here who's doing you wrong, extremely, is your husband. He should consider more your feelings. She's not right acting like that, but your husband is the one to blame.
You need to seek more respect from him. She's not the one who's bringing fire in your house, it's your husband and you need to tell him that. You need to stand on your feet for respect.
Why don't you just sip up to your husband when she is flirting with that guess who won look.
just slide your arm around his waist or some thing,in fact he could be petrified.
Some women just love to flirt it doesn't mean anything if it did then it says she isn't to happy with her life
tell her to back off.and if your husband doesn't put her straight then you need to tell him its either you or her.. don't put up with it.if this woman has dated married men in the past who's to say she isn't after your husband. if they are emailing and texting back and forth and having private conversations on the phone,it's time for you to put your foot down and put an and to it.
Her behavior is egregiously wrong! Check out some of the divorce websites - not to get a divorce, but most of them have information and strategies on dealing with scenarios like this. The hope is that you be able to maturely check him and her and let him know where you stand. She's a troublemaker, you already know what she is capable of. I feel for you and hope it works out for the best.
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Your husband is being rude and disrespectful. She's a tramp nonetheless but the responsibility is on him. I would question why he defends her so much. I would ask him why. Also, I wouldn't allow her to do those things in front of me because at this point she is disrespecting you and if your husband won't defend you then you stand up for yourself. Also, I would find me a';male friend'; the reality is that sometimes you can show a person better than you can tell them! If he can do it then certainly you can. Apparently he likes the attention he gets from her and even if he loves and married you (which I am sure he tells you all the time). If I were you I make sure I look my very best ALL the time and when other men flirt with me, I'd flirt back even if my husband was with me. Reality is you got two people against one. You need to fight fire with fire.
there is a problem..
i suggest,be on guard to your husband..
always remind of him, that theres a danger.
if they still continuing their so called ,friend..
try to convince him to ignore your friend..
the devil is a roaring lion,
he is seeking and ready to destroy .
just pray for them..
seek for God^s mercy upon them
cry unto the Lord.
He is the one who can control.
have faith and believe.
start packing either your stuff or his.......cause affairs don't just happen...it starts out by what you just described. You either put your foot down or your heart down so these two can walk all over it. Either way changes have to be made, she has to go or he can go with her. Stop it now and if you don't then you and her will switch roles........and you and your husband will be known as ';Just Friends';
The key word is respect. He doesn't have it. I would give an ultimatum... either she is totally history or he is. None of that friendship is normal or socially acceptable and he flips the issue back on you as jealousy and whatever... hes an idiot so drop the hammer. He has 2 choices...I would have personally ended the marriage a long time ago. Good Luck.
She is not happily married or she wouldnt be flirting with your husband. Loose her.
THEY both are disrespecting you. Your husband is primarily to blame for how you are feeling. I don't mean to be rude about this but it's time to wake up... text messages, emails, private telephone conversations, and bikini photos. It's almost destroyed your marriage, he defends her, not you...surely you know where this is heading. If you tried to talk to him already and this behavior continues, it's time for an ultimatum.
husband is treading on thin ice... you have to give him an ultimatum and stick to it! he has to stop talking to this woman, he is crossing the line! if he don't stop, he does not care about you... this is the truth!
he allows her to flirt with him, she is taking time away from you and he is letting her! talk to him, and tell him how it has to be, if she was so happily married she would not be doing these things... that's the truth!
he wants his cake while he eats it too... all flirting in my opinion is cheating... when you are married...
time to confront him and it has to stop or this will lead to divorce... she already had 1 affair, she will have another if given the chance...
no married person should have contact like this... stand your ground...
good luck!
Snoopy it takes two to tango, so you need to be prepared to take some drastic measures or things will not change, they will get worse.
No more asking them please don't do that, time for some ultimatums. If you don't use some tough love you may have nothing to save.
You are never going to be ok with this type of behavior because it is inappropriate.
You also may need to be more open and fun with your hubby, that is really hard to do when you feel-- and rightly so--threatened because of this ongoing flirt and secret text and chat stuff.
Okay, this worries me. If he is not telling her to stop, there is most likely something going on between them two.
But firstly, that woman is HORRIBLE! He is married for god's sake! She actually flirts in front of you? You need to speak up and say something to her again, since she doesn't seem to get it. Are you just going to sit there and take this disrespect? I sure woulden't.
You need to put your foot down, your husband isin't doing anything about it, that's what bothers me..
It seems that the real problem here is not that she flirts, but that your husband disrespects you enough to have her do it in front of you. And he has private texts, e-mails and phone conversations with her, and she sends suggestive pictures of herself? And he knows she was open to being with a married man? Then he keeps defending her, instead of seeing your point? All this is ';destroying your relationship';? ALL THE RED FLAGS ARE UP! Time to heed the warnings.
Confront HIM, not her. He's the one who has to reassure you, or to change, because that does not sound healthy. If he's not yet sexually involved, he is emotionally involved.
You do have the right to ask him to end it, and if he won't, if he chooses his ';friendship'; over his marriage, then you do have your answer.
Your husband is disrespecting you if he is entertaining her flirting by accepting suggestive pictures of her. Tell him that it is time he acted like a married man and respected his wife or he will soon be paying child support and alimony while you flirt.
How would he feel if you were doing the same with another guy. Ask him!!!
Let me guess. You've gained some weight and feel insecure. Stop! Men are more attracted to confidence. Send that hottie my way!
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