So yea my friend isn't talking to me for some reason?

i met this girl like 2 months ago..... we hang out a few times and then went on a trip to an island for a night............ first day was good but 2nd day was bad due to my planning and her girl problem...... so i was pretty non talkative that what i do when i am moody.........the next day i call her to hang with me and my friends.... she picked up my call and saying she'll call me after she think about it but apparently she called my friend and told him her decision.......then the next day we all went to play badminton...... i was still in my non talkative mood but i was getting jealous because she was talking so much to this friend..... flirting and giving backrubs....... i kinda showed my jealousy a little bit by talking to her about it in a joking way.......like how come she more interactive with him than with me.....mind you she doesnt speak english well and those 2 speak the same 2nd language......but yea after that day i called her and text her and no reply for awhile now......what did i go wrong? and any solution to heal this up because she leaving in like a few days back to her homeland foreverSo yea my friend isn't talking to me for some reason?
Hi there,





Friendships and relationships are underpinned by principles of trust, honesty, loyalty, integrity and respect amongst other criteria in equal measure by each party to that friendship. Of these trust is not a God given right but needs to be earned over a period of time.





Whilst we may make friends with people for one or more reasons, we have to start with the assumption that their values, ethics and code of morality are pretty much in keeping with our own. After all if you are anti-drugs you鈥檇 hardly want a drug addict as a bosom friend. Similarly we have to take for granted that the principles I鈥檝e mentioned are in place. Just as it takes time to build up trust, so too time will enable you to evaluate whether the principles I鈥檝e mentioned are characteristic of the person.





A friendship is a two way traffic system with give and take on both sides. Compromise may be called for on occasions.





You need to loosen up a bit and show more interest in her without dwelling on what makes you moody.





Practise becoming fascinated by her Ask her about herself, and concentrate when she answer you. Remember what she tells you about herself so you can talk about it later, or on another occasion.





Great socialisers make other people feel comfortable and interesting. How do they do that? By being really, genuinely interested in other people. If you are talking to someone and you feel boring or inferior, ask why that is. Is it really all your fault?





Practise using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness. (Note: Of course, part of friendship is giving away things about yourself, but only when you feel it is appropriate to do so.)








It's a common misconception that good conversationalists always have amazing stories to tell and a well of jokes to dip into. In fact, what most people want from conversation is dialogue and interaction, not just one-way traffic.





A good way of creating this flow of dialogue is by asking questions in a specific way. For example, questions like: ';Do you live in London?'; can be answered with a ';Yes'; or ';No'; reply - not very good for nurturing conversation. Whereas: ';Where do you live?'; has scope for a longer, and hopefully more interesting reply. This is an open-ended question.





As a general rule:





Questions starting with 'are' or 'do' are closed questions, generating yes or no answers.


Questions starting with 'what', 'where', 'which', 'who' and 'when', are open questions, which need fuller answers.





If you're looking for something a little deeper and more involved then you could try out the probing questions. These start with words like 'how', 'why' and 'in what way'. But make sure you find the person interesting before you do this, as it might mean saying goodbye to an evening talking to others!





1. Don't talk too long without pausing for a reaction. More than a minute is usually too long. Forty seconds is ideal.





2. Never contradict or flatly disagree with the other person. It's an implied insult.





3. Don't be too forceful or emphatic in stating your opinions until you learn the other person's attitude.





The ability to talk well can be cultivated.





You need to show genuine interest in the person if your conversation is to be successful. Interest can be focused on the subject matter of the conversation or the person. Showing interest in the person is by far the better way as people generally like to talk about themselves.





A one to one conversation is easier than group conversation. In one to one conversation there are two main aims:





1. To get to know the other person.


2. To reveal some things about yourself.


Generally these aims should not be aimed at directly.


Attitudes to cultivate in dialogue are:


Interest in the person


Interest in the subject


Friendliness


Sincerity


Candour


Helpfulness





Be patient with her particularly if she is returning to he homeland and you wish to maintain contact.So yea my friend isn't talking to me for some reason?
Don't shun your friends. She is not going to be kind to you now. You should beg her to listen to your apology. Vow never to dis-respect her like that again. It was childish of you.
unless you have connection with her while she is in her homeland, i would just forget about it since you probably won't ever talk/see/meet her ever again in you life.


good luck..