Worried About My Friend?

She's 14, she has 4 online bfs that I know of:





~One says he's 26, I did a people search. He's 29. She says he loves her, but a friend flirted with him on IM, and he asked the friend to get on cam.





~Another in his 20s,I think he's some kind of pervert, cuz I know they've both sent each other pics on email.





~Another one, I heard talking to her on the phone. He was messing with her by telling her he only had a month to live. He's like 20. He was laughing at her, and making fun of her, but she still says that he loves her. I think he's messing with her, and other girls, to see how many he can get.





I'm worried most about a guy that lives in our city. He's 17, and she made out with him a few times. She said she didn't like him, and promised she wouldn't see him, but then told us that she he had met up with him again, and he was just ';someone to make out with.'; Three days ago, she had sex with him, and she doesn't love him. She says she doesn't regret it.Worried About My Friend?
you have to be really careful with that kind of situation because the way you appoarch her about it can blow up in your face and possibly end your friendship. You have to talk to her in a way that lets her know that you care and to let her know that you are there for her. Try not to tell her what to do, or get too much in her face acting like her mother because then she'll feel traped. Talk to an adult about this, don't give names just ask them what you should say to your friend. adults are very smart, and a lot of them are more then happy to help. I've been in bad situations like that, and i've done the whole cutting thing and the most important thing was that my friends were there for me when i needed. most of all they were very good listeners. good luck with everything.Worried About My Friend?
ok ,does her = you? And you are all over the place here.


Can you rethink what you are asking and ask the question again,please...=( sorry..
well u need to tell her no one loves a cheater! and get her help bc she could end up killing herself,shes to young for all this stuff,shes still a kid she should enjoy it!
Doesn't she have an boyfriend who's 14, the same age as her? Or maybe, just a guy friend? Someone who can keep her distracted enough? Tell her to make friends and get offline! As soon as possible! She isn't meant to be doing this..at all.
You are a good friend. And you do have reasons to be worried. I think the most important thing to do is help her get back on her meds.





Would you be willing to go into therapy with her? So that you can tell her what's on your mind and she can talk to you too hopefully, but in a healthy way with a impartial professional to guide you?





Otherwise, I'm afraid the more you tell her what bad choices she's making, you will alienate her.





This is important because you don't want your friend getting any STD's or getting pregnant or hooking up with predators. Ask her if she's practicing safe sex.





You are in my prayers.
If you are worried about your friend, then you should confront her. She is on a dangerous path right now. Is she sleeps with one guy she doesn't love and has no regrets, then how do you know she won't do it again? She could get pregnant or get an S.T.D. I'm not saying that she is a s.l.u.t. but I am saying that she could really get hurt. You need to talk to your friend and tell her that you are worried about her. Get the other people who are worried about her and have an intervention. They really do work. Be comforting and don't get angry. The last thing that your friend needs right now is to feel like you are the enemy and you are angry at her. But don't be so soft that you don't get the point across. Express your concerns to her. Let her know how dangerous it is to meet people in person you met online. My prayers are with you and your friend.
why would she want to date 20 year old guys anyway. ?
Wow, it seems like you have a lot going on with your friend. How much older are these men? It seems that she's just looking for some male attention, and will take it at any chance. The one man she slept with, well, you can't physically keep her away, but I suggest sitting her down and confronting her. Tell her you are worried for her safety %26amp; mental stability, and you fear that the worst will happen. Explain how you really feel inside, and if she has any heart, she will listen. If anything, she may have to learn her lesson the hard way. Just remind her, no one is always who they claim to be online...
You need to confide in an adult that is close to you. There are so many perverts out there and on line predators! You would be doing your friend a favor and possibly saving her life if you talk to an adult that can do something to help her.